The truth is:
You’ve seen a lot of people that feel great about themselves as if the whole world belongs to them.
They always share their thoughts about anything wherever they find themselves even in group discussions with familiar and unfamiliar people.
They never panic or feel uneasy about job interviews, official presentations, or talks.
They effortlessly approach, attract, charm, and go out with different kinds of girls you’d never dare to come close to.
They easily get along with the kinds of guys you wish you could have to yourself.
You dream of being like them someday, filling the air around you with your extraordinary confidence and high self-esteem wherever you go.
Unfortunately for you, such a dream seems like an unrealistic fantasy unless you can truly become more confident and have high self-esteem.
And the big question is how can you do that? Low self-esteem isn’t a small enemy to defeat.
Sure, you occasionally dive into conversations without a second thought, instead of engaging in negative self-talk as you would normally do, but it’s not like you’ve gotten over low self-confidence and self-esteem.
You worry that you take constructive criticism too personal, that you’re finding it difficult to handle genuine compliments, that you constantly compare yourself to others, but you’ll be damned if you can figure out the magic formula.
And the truth is unless you can find strategies to improve your self-confidence and self-esteem, you’ll always be disappointed in yourself.
But there are ways to break away from the captivating chain of self-distrust and self-doubt, even if you’ve given up on yourself.
Am talking about the magical spells, that can take your confidence and self-esteem from teetering on the brink of total zero to a thousand percent, giving you the confident life you always longed for.
Lemme introduce you to them…
Ways To Build Confidence And Self Esteem
Let’s dive in…
#1. Eliminate Negative Thoughts.
Are you having negative thoughts about yourself?
Do you feel like you’re not good enough?
Do you feel like you won’t be able to achieve your goals?
Yes? Well, you have to get rid of such thoughts and send them straight to hell where they belong.
Because negative thoughts are the primary triggers of low self-esteem. They make you have a delusional view of yourself as un-loveable, awkward, and incompetent.
Negative thoughts set your mind against you in a quest to conquer, overthrow, and defeat you making you wallow in self-doubt and self-distrust.
The bitter truth is:
Negative thinking brings you down as well as your confidence.
For this reason:
You have to resist every urge to harbor negative thoughts and boost your confidence.
When you want to approach a girl you like, eliminate all negative thoughts that make you feel things won’t work out in your favor.
What if she doesn’t like me?
Should be expelled from your mind.
Read Also: 9 Surefire Ways To Be Confident With Women
#2. Counteract Your Negative Thoughts With Positive Ones.
Like earlier mentioned negative thoughts are the building blocks of low self-esteem.
This implies that dealing with negative thoughts is crucial if you want to defeat low self-esteem and become super confident.
And the best way to do that?
Is neutralizing all negative thoughts with encouraging positive thoughts.
Here’s why that’s important:
Neutralizing negative thoughts with assuring positive ones makes eliminating negative thoughts a lot easier.
And the best part?
Terminating negative thoughts gives rise to high self-esteem and a confident mindset which has been your long time dream.
So what are you waiting for?
Make your dreams come true!
Ever wished you could go out with a “valuable” guy?
Then you should quit seeing yourself as trash, mess, or “less than” in comparison to others.
Instead, you should reframe the way you think and begin to see yourself as valuable and the guys will also treat you as such.
#3. Look Strikingly Nice and Presentable
There’s no getting around this…
If you want to be incredibly confident, you should consider working on your general appearance.
Don’t get me wrong…
I’m not saying you should go overboard by trying to fix what you can’t fix like… going for a surgery. (Unless if truly want to.)
All am saying is:
Groom yourself, dress nicely, and appear presentable.
Because caring for your appearance and well-being influences your emotions as it makes you feel good about yourself knowing you look good.
And above all:
It magically elevates your self-esteem and self-confidence. It does this by influencing your appearance, which in turn affects the way you regard yourself.
To that end:
Groom yourself well and dress nicely… it doesn’t necessarily mean wearing a $500 outfit but casual clothes that are nice and looking presentable can do the magic.
#4. Edit and Improve Your Self-Image
We all have a mental picture of ourselves…
Which is our own imaginary image of our abilities, appearance, and personality?
In other words…
It’s the individual opinions we assume towards ourselves which illustrates traits such as intelligence, attractiveness, talents, kindness, and many other characteristics.
The fact of the matter is:
Unless we have a tremendous and sparkling self-image, we will never stand a chance in hell of being confident like we desire.
The only way out?
Is to devise means of editing and improving our self-image.
Because when you have a positive self-image, you’ll always maintain feelings of high self-esteem, favor, satisfaction, and competency.
These feelings can endlessly motivate you to pursue success in all aspects of life, such as relationship, money, health, and independence.
Having, or developing a positive self-image can enable you to confront and tackle even the most problematic aspects of life, such as poor health, economic problems, or even physical disabilities.
And the best part?
A positive self-image drastically improves your self-confidence and self-esteem.
Seriously, that’s how important it is for you to improve your self-image.
But the big question is:
Stop being a perfectionist — when you make a mistake, accept it, and learn from it.
Control Your Thoughts — never take your inner critics seriously, listen to it but don’t believe it’s judgment readily, in fact, when you hear negative thoughts snowballing, rebuke it, and drive your thoughts into a positive direction.
And finally, accept your weaknesses and shortcomings, see yourself for who you truly are, look beyond your negatives and discover your positive and lovable traits that can be developed and highlighted.
#5. Hangout with positive friends
Do you have friends who do nothing but talk you down or downgrade you always?
Do you have friends that always make you feel inferior, incompetent, and less confident?
Do you have friends that demotivate you and make you feel bad about yourself?
It’s time to get new friends.
Go ahead and get yourself new positive minded friends that won’t make you feel less important.
The bottom line?
Friends have a lot of impact on us which might be positive or negative.
Surrounding yourself with negative friends might make you feel your opinions can never be valuable and hence make you unable to share your views in group discussions.
For this reason:
Try as much as you can to surround yourself with positive friends that won’t downgrade or down talk you in any way as that will go a long way in helping you gain confidence and self-esteem.
And on top of that…
You have to mind what you say about yourself when you’re with your friends and avoid down-talking yourself because it will change their perception of you.
#6. Keep The Golden Commandment.
When it comes to dealing with low self-esteem, there’s one commandment you should never break:
“Thou shalt not tie your confidence around the acceptance, acknowledgments, and respect of other people!!!”
And I can almost hear you thinking…
“What’s he talking about?”
Well, all am saying is that:
You should desist from doing things just to impress people hoping to gain respect, acknowledgments, and acceptance from them.
The bottom line is:
Sooner or later, you’ll get the biggest shock of your life if those people you’re so bent on getting respect from blasts or slams you because you’re not good at what you’re trying so hard to impress them by doing.
And the worst part?
It will make you feel bad about yourself and as a result, you’ll become less confident than you were.
For this reason:
Never do things to impress people.
Know, understand, and learn your best skill then, do it often.
It could be singing, dancing or anything at all, that you can do well.
Just try and devise how you can use it to help others or advance your career. It will make you feel good about yourself.
Believe me, when you begin to feel good about yourself, you’re a big step closer to becoming a better and confident version of yourself.
#7. Learn to take compliments
Here’s something we can both agree on:
Most people find some things exceedingly difficult while others don’t even see them as a big deal.
Those things might be very common, ordinary, and normal.
But to some people, they’re simply awkward, embarrassing, and nerve-racking.
The simple truth is: Most people hate receiving compliments.
Because they have low self-esteem!
Let me clarify…
People with low self-esteem sometimes feel less positive about themselves and the person who complimented them. Because they have a negative self-image of themselves.
Hence, they find it difficult to accept even the most genuine compliment as it conflicts their negative impression of themselves.
Most of the time, they avoid any circumstance or situation that might make anyone pay them compliments.
Because, they’re always kept off-balance, or disoriented whenever they get complimented on their looks, outfits, smiles, etc.
For this reason:
They voluntarily, or involuntarily depreciate the compliments saying all sorts of blunders about themselves that might affect the way people will treat them in the future.
Unless you master the art of taking compliments, you’re always going feel awkward if someone pays you a genuine compliment.
Am sure, you don’t need a soothsayer to tell you that, awkward feelings are the building blocks of low confidence and self-esteem.
You just need to learn to take compliments positively.
But the question is:
Simple, when someone pays you a compliment, just smile and say “Thank You” or another appreciative response that’s all.
#8. Be Remarkably Lively
Do you have a dull individuality?
Are you always dull around people?
If yes, that’s a big problem.
Because you’re just scaring people away from coming close to you since you aren’t lively.
Chances are you don’t smile, make eye contacts, and keep your body language upright. For this reason, people might try to avoid you and when they do, you’ll certainly feel bad about yourself.
But unless you’re a lively person, you’ll never stop feeling bad about yourself.
Here’s the kicker:
Your liveliness will send signals of positive vibes to people around you and hence, act as a force of attraction pulling them close to you and making you feel at ease and good about yourself.
To this end:
Always try to practice being lively even if you’re scared inside.
If you fake being lively all the time you will eventually be the changed person you wish to be.
All you need to do is:
Smile a lot, make eye contact, and keep your body language upright. This makes you a lively person.
#9. Never Compare Yourself To Others.
Yeah, you heard me right. — Never compare yourself to others!
Because, when you compare yourself to others you’ll end up feeling bad about yourself, your failures, your inabilities, and so on…
Therefore, you’ll be discouraged by your shortcomings and as a result, you’ll end-up becoming less confident and develop low self-esteem.
Here’s a little advice:
Everyone has their flaws, nobody is perfect and I know you must have heard this a thousand times over.
But, bearing this in mind, will help you accept your weaknesses and lead the normal and confident life you’ve always longed for.
#10. Go For It.
Do wish you could man-up and go for your dream job interview?
Do you yearn for the courage to ask your long time crush out?
Is there anything you always wanted to do but too nervous about doing?
Yes? Here’s a piece of good news for you:
You can make it happen! All you have to do is:
Go out of your comfort zone and actualize your dreams!
Because you’ll always feel good and proud of yourself if you make it happen and that will also go a long way in helping you improve your confidence and self-esteem.
The truth is:
One trial could be holding you back from actualizing your dreams. Why not try your luck? Besides, there’s no harm in trying.
So, just do it!
#11. Be Kind To Yourself.
I know you want to be a confident person.
I know you’re sick and tired of feeling unloved, awkward, and incompetent.
I also know that you want to get over that feeling as soon as possible.
But in all honesty:
You just got to be kind to yourself by being patience.
You’ve to take things easy and follow all or a few of the strategies to improve self-esteem and self-confidence in this page.
Low self-esteem, is so much attached to negative thoughts.
You don’t expect your negative thoughts to change in seconds.
So, you have to be patient.
#12. Care For Yourself.
Are you a kind of neglecting yourself in any way?
Do you fail to care for yourself in any little way?
You shouldn’t! Instead, you need to greatly take care of yourself.
Because self-care helps you to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself as it produces positive feelings and boosts your confidence and self-esteem.
Self-care helps you to be more productive as it ensures you stay focused on your goals. And when you achieve your goals, you become more confident in your self.
And the best part?
Taking care of yourself encourages you to treat yourself like you matter and have intrinsic value. In other words, it enhances your self-esteem.
A word of caution:
Until you begin to gift yourself a lot of love, care, and attention it will almost be difficult to be confident as you would like to be.
Care for some tips?
Live Healthy — eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, exercise regularly, and avoid drugs and alcohol. Manage stress and go for regular medical check-ups.
Practice good hygiene, See friends, to build a sense of belonging, try to do something you enjoy every day, and devise means to relax, like meditation, yoga, getting a massage, taking a bath, or walking in the woods.
#13. Be Grateful.
Be appreciative, thankful, and grateful for everything that has to do with you.
Am not trying to sound like a “Gospel preacher.” But in truth:
Reminding ourselves of the good things we have, helps to put everything in order. It helps us start each day with hearts full of joy and in a positive frame of mind!
Beginning your day with a positive frame of mind is one of the vital ingredients, that ensures you have an extremely confident day.
Take a moment every single day (when you first wake up is good) to think about the things you are grateful for.
The Bottom Line On Ways To Build Confidence and Self-Esteem.
Being confident and having high self-esteem is one of the most desirable traits one can kill for.
Confident people connect well with others and live a generally happier life as they tend to easily actualize their dreams.
Confident people are more at ease in social situations and tend to attract people to themselves.
Confident and high self-esteemed people always have better romantic relationships and can effortlessly control their own emotions and behaviors more responsibly.
The good news is: you can also be one of them!
All you have to do is:
Religiously follow all or a few of the confidence-building hacks outlined above and upgrade to the super confident version of yourself you’ve always wanted to be.
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